We Were So Close...

Real life can sometimes ruin the extra fun, but there's still hope.

We were almost there! Nikki and I were trying to adjust to the 'new normal' and find our new comfort spaces to interact in... and then real life puts our naughty desires on the back burner.

But, honestly, we're not mad...

...we're just disappointed. Like a father figure, looking at real life responsibilities with the most traumatic, judgement face possible. We're not angry at the situation, and we understand that real life responsibilities come up, but we are disappointed that we can't live our dirtiest life.

Making Space for What Matters

At all times, we know that our "Lifestyle" is an extra-curricular activity that is NOT necessary for our happiness. We can slip in and out of the LS whenever it serves us. There are no obligations or minimums needed to maintain  our membership. This is not a full-time Lifestyle for us, and being on the same page with this is one of the most critical elements of maintaining our happy, healthy relationship. 

Sometimes, even when we are ready to venture back in, obligations come up. Family comes first before fuckery, and when a family member is in need of in-depth care, we instantly understand where our priorities are.

That's what happened for us. A family member was diagnosed with a pretty serious medical condition, and then promptly had a stroke. We were fortunate enough to be able to take that family member into our home, and provided her with the care and support she needed during the last few months of her life. 

Sharing this struggle is intended to illustrate that, yes... sometimes we are ready, willing, and eager to have some fun, but it's necessary to set this type of fun aside as we address the real world.

Patience is a Virtue, and a side benefit.

In our previous Blog post, "Swinging back into the scene, slowly..." we discussed our prioritization of the low-pressure, friends first approach to developing our comfort levels with potential, future partners. Our time-delayed experience provided a longer runway to assist with the takeoff of that effort. 

Previously, we were very direct in establishing that we are not currently meeting anyone or leaving room for misleading. We wanted to be clear that we were not, at the time, active in seeking partners. 

Now, we can shift that messaging to.... "we can't right now, but let's stay in touch". We don't know what our future or timeline looks like, but if we need social engagement and crave more intimate connections, we will have already started building a list of potential connections. Those connections, by virtue of patiently waiting for us AND maintaining the friendship, have demonstrated they care more about our well-being than about the hookup. Those that don't operate on our level may or may not get a follow-up opportunity.