Young Swingers

It's hard to find community in a group you feel like you can't connect with. For younger Swingers, it's even harder to create that community because there are so few of us/you out there.

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IT'S NOT EASY BEING YOUNG.
IT'S HARD TO KNOW WHAT TO DO.
                                    - DOLLY PARTON

I once created a group devoted entirely to the young swingers (35 & under) of the DFW area. While it seems as if it may be discriminatory, the intentions of the group were to give the younger generation a platform to be their own version of a lifestyle that has been around for several generations.

​All too often, the habits, philosophies, and traditions of the experienced are passed down to the young without question of practicality or reason. Each generation manages to put their own twist on most “culture”, but what happens when we don’t give that next generation room to grow and blossom on their own?

Many young people are much more open minded than previous generations. Many topics, from bi-sexual males to openly discussing experiences, are considered taboo in many older circles. The younger people are breaking down these taboos and wanting to express themselves openly without fear of judgement or becoming outcasts.

Additionally, as the older veterans of the swinging lifestyle get even older, they tend to close off and maintain smaller circles of friends that they’ve known for years. There’s nothing wrong with people operating within their comfort levels, but it creates a difficult realm for new, young, disconnected swingers to try to learn in.


The younger generation needs a large circle of friends to explore and grow with. They need their own group to develop bonds and trust and comfort levels with. If they are taking the step out of societal norms, they need welcoming arms from others they can relate to.

If you’re a younger swinger (early 20’s to mid-to-late 30’s) do your best to welcome similar aged friends in. There are many people out there than need reassurance that this can work. Too often, people see couples that were together for 15 or 20 years before they started swinging and believe, by starting so young, they may be making a mistake.

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If you’re an older couple, interacting with younger swingers, please don’t be offended if they find support and comfort in this kind of context. They still love and respect you, but there are some things we all need in order to feel fulfilled, and a feeling of community might be one of those things.


Again, to my younger people, find your group that most compliments you and your relationship.


Be Young. Be Wild. Be Free.